The mere fact we are in a situation where we feel the need to justify, as transage, transrace, transpecies, transethereal, transbiotic, transvital beings, our support of the Transgender Day of Remembrance is indicative of how much we have been oppressed by those that have taken hold of the only trans identity that has gotten mainstream recognition.
It is thus indicative not of how bad it is to be transgender; only of how bad it is to adapt to the mainstream by dilluting acceptance, by betraying our oppressed brethren.
The Transgender Day of Remembrance shouldn’t be ignored. It should be reclaimed by all, inclusive to the utmost to all those whose identity doesn’t match what has been arbitrarily attributed to them by others.
And while doing so publicly, especially IRL, is largely, at current, dangerous and to some extent near-impossible, we can, and shall, do so on places like here, platforms such as RQD2.
20th November is the TransID Day of Remembrance as far as I’m concerned. Including transgender, but going so much further beyond.
So share stories. Share yourselves. Share the pain, so others can understand it, acknowledge it, live it. So they’ll know what to fight for.
Share also the fiery passion, thirst for betterment, righteous fervour, so you’ll be motivated to do so.
So that one day, we will share the good as well. The hope for increasingly better, and the satisfaction of having seen a situation better than what used to be.
CW obesity mention and possible death
Special message of remembrance for Mei’s best friend from about 10 years ago in the MLP community. Went by Midnight. Very sweet trans girl who struggled with obesity and all the issues that came with that. She and Mei were close enough to be lovers but were never together officially. They loved and supported each other a lot and knew each others partners and friends very well. We disappeared off the internet to escape a stalker at the time. When we came back and try to contact Midnight again, we heard nothing of her or her well being. Her parents and the people in her life refused to help her with her health problems OR transition due to her identity. Going by what we know, and her situation, it’s a decent chance that she’s no longer with us. Mei thinks about her a lot. If you’re still alive and readying this Middy, we love you w lot and hope to see you again someday. If not. We’ll keep fighting for you. And I’ll never forget everything you did for my sister. Never forgotten.
Transgender day of remembrance is about recognizing the frequency of violence towards transgender people specifically. Is there a large amount of violence towards other transID beings than transgender people? No, not really. So, I don’t understand how this needs to be about anyone else. Also, with this reasoning shouldn’t all holidays about recognition for minorities of any kind instead be about all other minorities? No, of course not. There can be holidays about specific minorities, no? So why is this any different?
It’s not just violence against trans people, but other ways they’ve died too. I personally have been a part of many suicide scares as I had lots of my online transid friends try to kill themselves. Lots of rcta people on tiktok have reportedly taken their own lives. Not to mention the many maps who have died who were likely transage.
Actually, you are right - ideally, there should be a day of recognition and remembrance of those that disappeared as a result of all oppressions, regardless of trait, though just as ideally there would also not remain any such oppression, and such days would be that much more necessary to remember the pain of the past, as to avoid it in the future.
As for other transIDs receiving violence - friends of mine have died as a result of mistreatment, bullying, threats and suicidal egging-on for their age identity, and I was nearly pushed into suicide, and completely into depression, over my species identity. So yes, really.
