• SacrificedBeans@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    If only it worked like that… Unfortunately the stigma is far greater on the first victim’s side, the response would lightly graze the asshole’s reputation

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      11 months ago

      if a guy claims he slept with someone but they deny it, is anyone really just going to take the guy for his word?

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        11 months ago

        Completely depends on the girl.

        If she’s considered to be of loose morals, people will believe the guy. If she’s the teacher’s pet and goes to Sunday services, she’s getting the benefit of the doubt.

        I spent 15 years working with high school boys. This is how it played out every time with few exceptions. We saw it multiple times per year. Society might evolve but the locker room moves a lot slower. We kept focusing on respecting each other, consent and keeping your yap shut when you’ve done something private with a consenting partner to respect privacy. Kids don’t listen.

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        11 months ago

        it’s human nature to believe what they hear first, this is sadly true