I have, mostly, always been top. I am told I am good to my partners and I am sure to get them off before I am done (with few explainable exceptions}. I am also told I am a bit large of junk for some of them and I can get a little aggressive during sex. I am always worried that I could be doing better, I feel like there are some expectations of a bottom that tops can’t understand. Does anyone have anything they always wanted a top to know but never told him?

  • joshoff@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    10 months ago

    We’d make a great team: when I bottom I’m concerned that the top feels they’re being too greedy or selfish (no such thing for me at least) and I wonder if I should be acting more aggressively – or more passively.

    Now just me: I’ve been told by tops who prefer loose that I’m too tight and by other tops who prefer tight that I’m too loose. No idea.

    • MadTop@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      10 months ago

      That is something I wonder about. Is my partner in their moment or worried about mine. If I get too deep in it it can end up and double empathy and cause a catastrophe. I have always found a more vocal/expressive partner helpful not to mention hot as hell 🥵

      • joshoff@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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        10 months ago

        Sometimes sex with new people is better than with old reliables specifically because I’m unable to try to get into the heads of new people. Catastrophe is right.

        If I yell “fuck me” and “keep doing that” and “I get off when you’re losing yourself, so keep going, buddy”, you down to bang me sometime?