Hi c/BDSM community!

Because the prior mods were inaccessible and unresponsive for months on end, admins have decided to appoint a new moderator. That would be me. I’m going to sticky this post for a while for community members to comment about what direction they’d like for this community. But I’d like to make some suggestions here too.

BDSM is as generic a term for all-encompassing kink as one gets. It’s a general term. A place where an interactive community should naturally form. So, while I support posting porn here, I’d like to also suggest an openness to community based material. That’s why I posted a blog entry by @girlonthenet@mastodon.social yesterday about her subby side enjoying ‘good girl’ praise. I think this community could do with more of that kind of material.

Along with that, I want to talk about c/BDSM becoming a true safe space for women, trans persons, and subs of all sorts. We cannot have a general kink community forum without kinksters. And we cannot encourage kinky subs to contribute if we let a slim minority of assholes in the community mistreat them.

Anyone who exposes themselves emotionally or physically will have the mod team’s 100% support. No kink shaming, no body shaming, no cruelty allowed. Period. That goes for male, female, and nonbinary; subs and Dom(mes).

Along with that, I’d like to offer mod positions, or some kind of community guidance role as wished, to women (Domme or sub) so they feel they have real input about how this place is run.

I mean, a male dominated BDSM community is plain at odds with basic kinkster ethics.

This doesn’t mean I envision c/BDSM to become LemmyNSFW’s c/subsanctuary. As a Dom, I really shouldn’t be involved in a community like that. But what it does mean is that subs of all sorts should feel safe and welcome to contribute here.

Opinions? Please feel free to express yourselves. Even if you disagree. I’m listening.

ADDENDUM:

To clarify, by seeking women’s, trans, and sub voices in how the BDSM community is run, I do not mean to imply this should therefore exclude male voices. This is not a zero sum game.

ADDENDUM TWO

New Moderator Announcement.

  • VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    You may want to edit your post then because you made it really sound like men were not welcome to be mods.

    • AnaisRim@lemmynsfw.comOPM
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      9 months ago

      Calling to be inclusive to women does not exclude men. But sure, I’ll clarify. Still, I have to say, the slightest suggestion women should be included in community management sure does get a lot of male panties knotted in a bunch.

      • cactusupyourbutt@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        thank you for this clarification. that makes me feel much more accepted and welcome here.

        I wrote my initial comment because it felt like it deliberately excluded men. I do agree that other gender and sexes should also be able to be moderators of course.

        I want to apologize too because I apparently misinterpreted your post a bit. But you have successfully restored my faith in you as the new owner of this community

      • VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        Or it was poorly worded on your part. I personally would have assumed moderation was open to all genders until you specifically called for only 1.

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          9 months ago

          You’re being argumentative. If you’re this unhappy with the decision, the exit is at the unsubsubscribe and block button. Feel free to use it.

    • polkadotgirl@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      I sense a flurry of snowflakes triggered by the thought women might become more than mere nude spectacle for the entertainment of men round these parts. 😆

      • VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        I love women in power, and the mod teams should have both genders on it, but your personal attacks against people is fairly unbecoming.