Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.

  • EssentialCoffee@midwest.socialEnglish
    3·
    7 months ago

    Even worse, the men who figure things out tend to find a good partner and pair up, taking them out of the pool.

    Why does this get an ‘even worse’ qualifier?

    • cynar@lemmy.worldEnglish
      111·
      7 months ago

      Because it leaves the blind leading the blind, leading to really stupid ideas getting too much traction. Both in being too aggressive, and being too passive. Neither work well.

      It also creates a biased pool, which helps fuel the really negative views of women.

      It’s the same effect as happens in weight loss groups. Those who succeed tend to move on. Those that hang around and gain “authority” tend to have failings.

      Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good thing for the people involved, but bad for those left.