Male here. Visually, I like a lot of things so it’s hard for me to narrow it down to just a few things. Happy to list my tastes if interested though. Personality is the better question. It breaks down into three things: chemistry, appreciation for fun, and curiosity.

Chemistry - It’s not a personality trait but it is so important. Chemistry matters and if it’s not there, nothing else matters.

Appreciation for Fun - I am not the most fun person in the world (in bed I’m probably more fun than out of bed) but I do like someone who can let themselves go a bit and have fun, in and out of bed.

Curiosity - I consider myself relatively adventurous in bed but haven’t done a lot of the things that turn me on. So someone who is curious and would explore my curiosity is incredibly appealing.