I’ve seen people make blackface accusations over tanning spray and charcoal blackhead masks.

Just today I got accused of transphobia again (on a different site) because somebody didn’t like my own lived experiences with the intersection between my transness and my exploration of non-judeo-christian spirituality.

Like, I’ve had surgery to remove gendered parts. Twice. And I get called transphobic all. the. time. I literally just can’t with that entire community they’re so fucking detached from the rest of society in their little insular bubble where they take every single little thing waaay too seriously such that half the shit they say makes 0 sense. They’re so hung up on people they barely know following every single linguistic rule they made up in their little bubble and conceptualizing their gender in all its aspects exactly the same way they do that they’re impossible to deal with.

My nibling who just came out themselves had a nasty breakup because the other person insisted that the way they were cuddling them was misgendering them. Just completely unhinged.

I just want people to not give a a shit about my gender and I’m happy. You mind your business I’ll mind mine. But god forbid I say that I can’t personally empathize with the concept of gender at all. Apparently being surgically confirmed nonbinary isn’t enough to have my own experiences and feelings about my gender or lack thereof.

Being trans isn’t in itself a mental illness but I’ve definitely noticed a trend of trauma from the wider societal nonacceptance leading to a much higher incidence of mental illnesses in that community. That plus the missing elders that died during the AIDs crisis has left a huge number of LGBT kids just absolutely fucking feral ffs.

Sorry this got off topic but yeah anyway I’m turning into an old person at an alarming rate. I wish I had a trans community of people to spend time with who weren’t fucking insane, but we can’t always get what we want (which is a lesson a LOT of those people need to learn).