Have you seen that case of the “Cute Japanese weather girl” being bullied online?
Basically online bullied for getting a boyfriend, I know stuff like that happens in other countries but Japan is probably the worst with stuff like that, their obsession with idols is borderline creepy.
As a professional virgin, loser I keep myself on check and tries his best to not act like any of those dudes in the media I follow, like WWE (you know since wrestling is famous for having MANY attractive women)… A good exercise is to think like this: dude, if you see a beautiful, successful, young woman part of a media, plus being on the nerdy side of media you have 0 chances, why are you simping? Is virtually impossible to meet a normal woman already, such “goddesses” are unreachable (I’m ironically using the word).
But this behaviour looks more normalized in Japan and that part of Asia? (for what I’ve seen in many documentaries plus YouTube videos) Correct me if I’m wrong
It’s not just Japan, and it doesn’t just apply to women. K pop has the same situation, and boy bands are no exception.
Although modern media allows for much less privacy, this idea is far from new. Back when The Beatles were a fresh, new band in the early 1960s, John Lennon had to hide his first marriage from the public. Long before Yoko Ono, there was Cynthia Lennon. John was pressured to hide his relationship for the same reasons that K pop and J pop idols do - in order to create the illusion of “attainability” among fans.
Times have changed in the west, where celebrity couples have found greater public acceptance. I’m not well-versed in Japanese and Korean celebrity cultures, so I’m not sure why this prohibition on dating/marriage still occurs there. All I know is, this situation is not unique.