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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/lucidlucifer94 on 2023-10-07 12:41:57.

First and foremost I’m neurodivergent, not extremely feminine for a woman, and trying to improve my self awareness and social skills.

Is it normal to very often feel like you’ve accidentally offended another woman if even if you’re not neurodivergent? (Obviously I suspect not as often as me when I’m not being very mindful of my symptoms, but could you give me a general idea). I might have offended one, but another one in the group is still being like my best friend so I got some things right.

How do you personally deal with sensing you’ve offended someone - without going overboard with people pleasing to try and fix a problem that isn’t yours, or on the other side not doing enough to figure out what happened and to make the other person feel comfortable again?

I know it takes all types and some women are way more resilient, don’t get hung up or don’t misinterpret my actions and speech as much as other women can.

I also know that a lot of the time I just do abnormal things that seem to offend people without me realising it would offend them.

I’m very sensitive myself to all the cues and expressions people make once I become aware of them. I can easily take things the wrong way with my history. But I rarely give off an annoyed vibe in this case, and I often sense women giving annoyed or cold vibes and I’m trying so hard to tell the difference between when it’s my fault or when it’s not and whether people are just being over-reactive.

Thanks everyone.