I have a one on one with my boss every week. He’s a decent guy.
But every week he asks how wedding planning is going and there’s so much more to my life than that and I wonder if he would ask if I was one of the guy engineers in the office. My wedding is next summer.
Ugh. Anyone else have any similar experiences?
Without further context, I think he’s just making small social talk. I ask about wedding planning when any of my friends is planning one - guys, gals, or nonbinary pals. (He might be angling for an invite, though.)
This is probably true. I might be a little too on guard since I’m one of two female engineers versus about fifteen male engineers at the company.
Lol. It’s definitely interesting because we moved just this summer and sent out save the dates two months ago. I’m sure both my fiance and I will have new friends to invite by the time spring rolls around.
It’s a fine line between “endearing small chat” and “I know literally one thing about your personal life.” It sounds like your boss isn’t walking that line well tbh. In my experience, I have asked both my male and female engineers who are getting married how the planning is going, but not literally every one on one and we talk about other things, too. YMMV.
I appreciate the perspective. It’s true. I only started with this company about 3 months ago so it’s one of the key facts he knows about me.