It’s a medium article about infighting that I often see in autistic communities.

  • AkaBobHoward@lemmy.world
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    I am kinda old, I got my diagnosis late because when I was in grade school, no one talked about autism, I was just “special” I was passed grade to grade because I would “catch up eventually” I grew up through a lot of change, I saw the LGBTQIA+ community go through something very similar to this. When we were allowed to “come out” and be less scared the community was so tribal. The gay men didn’t want the lesbians around and vice versa, no one believed bisexuals existed, and you were only transexual on the weekends to make money. Or that was the thinking then.

    Now we, for the most part, see the value of working together, the strength in numbers, we have shed some of the internalized homophobia and found a collective voice to fight against the attacks from the outside and stop perpetuating them internally.

    This seems the same tribalism we are seeing in the nurodivergent world right now. There will be a time to come together, and fight the attacks from the outside, a time to raise our voice together and protect our own, but for now, each individual that see this as problematic must begin the cry to end the infighting and strengthen our group and show what we can do collectively.

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      1 year ago

      This is insanely important information! Thank you! I was asking myself the exact same thing as op and I even made a couple groups myself just to see them fail. Your account was most helpful. Thank you.

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        I hope this broken tribe mentality clears in this community much more quickly than it has in the LGBTQIA+ community. I wouldn’t say we are done with it yet there are so many in the gay community that still want to exclude parts for what seems like bigotry. There are necessary executions simply for the protection of others, but consenting adults and all that.

        Back on track, the sooner this community (nurodivergent, autistic, whatever you want to call it) would be wise to take a lesson from us. There are many who are of both communities, so I have hope. We need people like you, me and others that see this and think the in-fights are a problem to calmly, rationally educate, point to the past, and lead by example.

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          1 year ago

          You are absolutely correct. Well, the first step would be that you and I (and maybe pp?) make a community on lemmy searching for exactly these people (to organize) and educate the rest. What do you say?

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            1 year ago

            I had not thought about this, it sounds like a great idea, but I need a little time to think and plan a bit of that is okay, in the meantime feel free to dm and chat a bit and let me know what you have in mind.