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  • Preach my brother.

    I’m almost 30 and i 100% agree. Friends and family thought i was gay because i guess dont fit the normal “male” shit that everyone seems to assume you need to be male.

    I like art and music amd cute things like cat bowls with cat ears.

    But i also like to build things like my desk and work outside with my hands and fix things like when my girlfriends parents had thier washing machine break. Loved fixing that.

    Early on into our relationship, my girlfriend saw me cry and didn’t say shit about me not being a man or being weak or whatever garbage people code to “men”. She was just there for me. Sat and listened.

    So to answer OP, i agree with Scrubbles, find someone you wanna spend time with. The woman you describe absolutely exists but theres also a chance that you find someone completely different and that’s ok.



  • Meds do help in my case. My issues was not procrastination so much as id procrastinate and then forget about it.

    Meds help me remember to do things and stay more organized but they don’t make it super easy, just easier. I think the biggest thing is they make me feel awake. Before meds, i always felt like i was tired. Probably because my brain was always in overdrive.

    Feeling awake helps motivate me to get stuff done.

    I’m using amphetamine salts or generic adderall


  • Welcome brother.

    Yea I switched from Windows to Fedora and aside from issues with music production, I have been happy with the switch. Its a weight off my mind knowing i dont have to worry about Windows stealing my data anymore.

    I’m probably going to be switching to Ubuntu or something Ubuntu based since it seems it will be a bit easier to work with for making music. Not that Fedora hasnt been great in general but i think my specific needs like having yabridge for Windows vsts is making me consider switching.




  • My advice is start slow and dont hurt yourself in the name of fitness. Its better to take a day off if your legs really hurt so that your body has time to heal rather than “work through the pain”.

    And eat enough to fuel the new cardio. Doesnt do you much good if you arent giving your body enough to work with. If your trying to lose weight, slight calorie deficit of about 200 calories is typically recommended.

    And listen to some music that pumps you up! Always made me love running. Good luck! You got this :)




  • Bluefruit@lemmy.worldtoNo Lawns@slrpnk.netA confession
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    Ever since i heard of this concept i was very interested. Love the idea of planting something other than grass that takes less or no water. I think thats awesome so thanks for making these communities!

    As for your lawn, we all get busy man. Stuff falls through the cracks. Dishes dont get done, laundry goes unfolded and some shrubs get a bit too long but thats ok.




  • Bluefruit@lemmy.worldtoADHD@lemmy.worldWhat's your job?
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    I work at a small company where I wear a lot of hats.

    I audit chats, supervise a team of agents, answer billing and sales tickets as well as the phone for sales.

    When theres downtime i also work on spreadsheets which we use to track agent performance and make tools to help us work. Thats probably the msot fun part. Its a good job.

    Pay is way under what we should be getting but i like the company and they treat me well. Plus wfh so cant complain too much.




  • Lol ive had that kind of experience as well. I got lucky and first med i tried was really effective. I’m now able to just stop thinking for a while. All the voices are quiet and no music plays.

    I just got diagnosed last year and ive had ADHD all my life without knowing it so super weird to just have a quiet head. I get what you mean, its such a drastic change, but a good one.