misago@kbin.socialOPtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.world•Am I (24M) being delusional over possibilities of a relationship with my crush (21F)?
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1 year agoI’m sorry about the lost comment :( I definitely agree with you. Time is needed, both to understand if my feelings are actually true or if it’s more about a temporary enfatuation. I feel very lucky to have both her and our other friends, so I think this’ll go smooth regardless. And truly, being kind to everyone’s feelings, me included, is what I need to look upon. Thank you so much!
Much of what you say hits home and sounds very true! Indeed, I know it might be hard to understand why the mixed feelings. To add more context: she is very timid, so sometimes it’s hard to discern if some of her words are filled to the brim with friendly love only, or if there’s another type of interest in there. We also recently started to compliment each other about looks, for example, but I am aware that this could simply be close friends breaking certain barriers that would be awkward at earlier stages :) This definitely answer your question though: realistically, there is no clear flirt or interest sign. If she wanted, she could’ve already showed so.
In truth, using the word delusional might have been a little too strong: I know for a fact that our friendship is 100% genuine, and that is what I cherish the most. All of the compliments I send her way are honest, and I believe my actions to not have second means. If I give her rides it’s because I enjoy our talks, enjoy our time together. The friendship is definitely much clearer than any ulterior feeling I am thinking about here. I talked about infatuation, but truly, maybe the main reason for why I worry so much about her and why I care so much is that I didn’t feel a bond this pure since years. I am just rambling here, this falls on me to understand, but the points you’ve brought forth are very valid.
Something I know for sure is that I would hate it for me to spoil the friendship which she is so clearly enjoying.
P.s. there’s no work relationship binding us, we simply work close to each other and meet often during work hours. Our “though” professional time being the same time is purely coincidental.