• angrystego@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Being accepted is different from being dated though. And dating is not just about evaluating people rationally. For most people, something must click, and there are many factors that you cannot control - like the way your body gives of a special kind of smell that indicates your potencial compatibility based in the type of your immunity. It’s wild stuff and it matters.

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      1 year ago

      Yes, I know.

      A bit tired of posting in this thread with nasty emotions from cold because, well, I do have cold now.

      That wild stuff clicks very much. FFS, it clicks every bloody time. Smells, moves, tone, appearances, things we discuss.

      I mean, for some time. It doesn’t click when you’re sick, don’t sleep well and drink atrocious volumes of tea with sugar without doing any sports, also being tired all the time. Usually, cause, say, the last time it clicked even in these conditions.

      Nah, problems start with deep text communication, and the scary thing is that I say all the same things that I say in person. Just emotions she gets while I’m talking IRL are completely different from those she gets from my text, while it’s really the same for me.

      Ah, to your comment’s starting line - I didn’t mean being dated by being accepted. You can reject someone still making them feel accepted. I’ve done that a couple of times. Was at some point starting to think it looks differently from the other side, but relatively recently got a rejection of this kind and it is so much better that it doesn’t feel like a catastrophe at all.