One that comes to mind for me: “Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is not always true. Maybe even only half the time! Are there any phrases you tend to hear and shake your head at?

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    “History repeats itself” or “history doesn’t repeat itself, but rhymes”. If that were the case then it would be pretty easy to predict the future.

    The reality is humans have evolved to try to find patterns in a given system. It’s what made us really good hunters and excellent tool builders.

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    It’s been a millenium since I’ve heard it, as I no longer qualify as young.

    But

    “You’ll understand when you’re older”

    I’m older.

    I’m thirty.

    The only thing I “understand” is that all the rules are arbitrary as all fuck, society was made up by idiots with giant sticks up their arses, and everyone should go fuck themselves.

    The only “progress” I made is that I stopped hating myself for “failing at society” and started hating society for failing so many people.

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      Hey, what happened when the wrong people started winning elections in Iraq when we set up democracy there?

      “That’s TOTALLY DIFFERENT”

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      Well, no, the trauma is the event itself. The reaction to it is post-traumatic stress. If that stress gets in the way of your day-to-day functioning, then it could be called PTSD (but there’s like pages and pages of diagnostic criteria too).

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    “Boys will be boys”

    How about you teach your kid how to behave and respect others so they don’t grow up to be an entitled asshole.

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      I think this one just morphed over time to be misused to excuse poor behavior. I always took as like boys rough housing each other and mucking about or eating dirt etc.

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        Rough housing/mucking are container words. Blanket terms that can contain anything including dismissed sexual assault and other poor behaviour that influence children. This is the whole point of why umbrella terms like ‘boys will be boys’ is bad. It helps brush over the plethora of problems inside of these containers instead of address them directly.

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            -Said the abuser. When Grabbing towels and pinching penises in the boys locker room shit gets defended as ‘rough housing’ you sick fuck.

            Especially considering the era in which ‘rough housing’ was coined. Layers of old, stale toxicity there, gramps.

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              You’ve proven my initial comment. The term is misused and then people like yourself come along and perpetuate it’s misuse.

              Going from mucking around to abuse like there’s not a hundred other perspectives and factors at play.

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                Right because misusing a fucking pathetic phrase that seems to be your hill to die on is the real take away here. Not the rampant toxic masculinity getting slipped under the radar.

                You. You and your fucked up syntax fucking thinking like this are the problem with everything that’s gone wrong with the big picture items. You don’t give a shit about anyone but your little pet peeves. You just proved that you bring nothing to any table ever and do not ever intend to you impotent little narcissist.

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    “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results.”

    This is literally not the definition of insanity.

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    “Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well.”

    Most things I do, most of what we all do, we do *well enough *. Ain’t nobody got time for doing every bloody thing to perfection.

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      I generally advocate for the complete opposite, as a person with AuDHD and a lot of executive dysfunction:

      If an activity has value, then it is worth half-assing.

      If you can go whole hog on it and do it with full effort, great! – But you are often better off doing it kinda half-assed, knowing full well you didn’t put your all into it, then you’d be if you just didn’t do it because you can’t do it “properly” and felt bad about it.

      Be it work, schoolwork, cooking and eating, cleaning, self-care things. Whatever.

      If it is an activity that has any value, it will still have more value when half-assed then it would have if you felt guilty for your inability to do it whole-ass and then just didn’t do it.

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    When you forget what you were about to say:

    “Must not have been important”

    How in the ever-living fuck could anybody come to that conclusion?

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      I use this, and I struggle a little to disengage when the person I ask interprets it as “help me figure out how to solve this” when they don’t actually have the “short answer”.

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    “Sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.”

    God I hate that quote. I can’t tell the difference between a spruce and a pine, but that doesn’t make them indistinguishable, just means I don’t know what the fuck I’m looking at. Magic and tech are definitively distinct. Our monkey brains might mistake one for the other, but like the spruce and pine, that does NOT make them indistinguishable.

    Edit - Bruh what’s with the downvotes?? We’re here to express an unpopular opinion, cut me some slack!

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      I think you got a couple downvotes because you took the quote far too literally. The person who said it did not believe in magic and was not trying to compare a nonexistent supernatural force to hyper advanced technology. If you look up the quote I’m sure you’ll find some essays about what Arthur was getting at.

      For a very simple example, suppose an alien showed up and had antigravity tech built into their clothing or even as a cybernetic implant, that let them hover around in the air with no discernible means of propulsion. The average modern human would probably look at that and think “fuckin magic…” because you literally can’t understand or recognize what is going on or how it works.

      Or another example using ‘time travel’ instead of aliens. Imagine putting a medieval peasant in the back seat of a fighter jet taking off from an aircraft carrier, or in a VR helmet to experience a virtual trip around the galaxy, zooming around planets and stars. In both cases there are unfathomable things right in front of their eyes everywhere they look. They would have no fucking clue what was going on in either case. To you and me those are normal, understandable things. To the medieval peasant, it’s magic.

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        Well yeah, but that’s why I dislike the quote. It doesn’t say what it means. Every example of what it intends to convey kinda falls back to the spruce vs pine thing to the uneducated eye. It doesn’t matter if I understand how the alien antigravity socks work -if they’re tech, they’re tech. Hell, I don’t understand how the cell phone I’m posting from works. It could literally be filled with tiny wizards who are actively casting a spell to send my thoughts to Lemmy - I dunno, and I can’t verify. I’m reasonably confident that’s not the case: despite all the functions this device is capable of that do indeed feel magical, that doesn’t make it magical.

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          The quote doesn’t say it is magic though, actually. It just says, that from our perspective, it’s indistinguishable from magic.

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              from our perspective is implied in every sentence ever.

              And no, you can’t expect phrases to “say what they mean”----that would just require them to include more phrases, etc…

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    “Trust me.”

    Most of the time those two words can be correctly replaced with “I believe you to be an irrational eager to swallow any crap smeared on its filthy snout.”

    (People who deserve your trust typically don’t evoke it.)